Venus Butterfly (technique)

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Venus Butterfly is a technique that involves enhancing sexual pleasure through a combination of stimulation of various erogenous zones. It is widely known for its references in popular culture, including TV series such as The Customer is Always Dead. This technique is designed for women and is performed during oral stimulation; it includes both cunnilingus and manual stimulation. Venus Butterfly is considered one of the classic and most popular practices among those who want to increase the level of intimacy and make their relationship deeper and more intense.

Anatomy and its role in the technique

Clitoris

The clitoris is the main area involved. It is a complex organ consisting of an external visible part (the head) and an internal structure that goes deep inside the body. Its high sensitivity is due to the large number of nerve endings. In this sense, the main objective of the technique is to create a pleasant rhythm of stimulation that increases arousal without causing discomfort. The Venus Butterfly technique can include:

• Stimulation of areas around the clitoris (for example, at the level of the labia minora).
• Using different textures: touching with fingertips, soft lips or tongue.

G-spot

The G-spot, or Grafenberg point, is located on the front wall of the vagina at a depth of 4-5 cm. It has a unique texture, different from the rest of the vaginal mucosa, and when properly stimulated, it causes a deep orgasm. The Venus Butterfly technique involves a combination of G-spot and clitoral stimulation to enhance the orgasmic experience. The Venus Butterfly technique can include:

• Using different speeds and rhythms. Some women are suited to more intense stimulation, while others prefer slow and rhythmic stimulation.
• Turning or rotating movements with your fingers inside the vagina, which helps to stimulate the tissues more actively.
• Light pressure with the palm of the hand on the lower abdomen at the same time as internal stimulation.

The perineum and anal area

Some women find extra pleasure in light stimulation of the perineum or external anal sphincter. This is an optional part of the technique, but with the right approach, it can increase overall arousal.

Preparation for the technique

Preparation is the most important part of Venus Butterfly, as it sets the stage for complete relaxation and concentration on sensation. So, it is recommended to start by creating a comfortable environment; an intimate atmosphere can include soft lights, scented candles or essential oils, and relaxing music. It is important that both partners feel safe and free to express their emotions.

Physical fitness also plays a role. A light massage can be a good way to start the process, releasing tension in the body and setting the sensual mood. Using lubrication, especially if more intense stimulation is anticipated, will make the process comfortable and enjoyable.

Performing the technique

The Venus Butterfly technique involves several stages. It starts with gentle stimulation, gradually moving to more intense stimulation when the woman is fully relaxed and ready.

Initial stimulation

For most women, it takes about 10 minutes to reach a state of maximum arousal, although in some cases 5-7 minutes is sufficient. Don't be fixated on time, just trust your sensations and focus on your partner.

Pay attention to her body - it will tell you what to do. Study her breathing, watch her movements, listen to her moans. These signals will help you understand how much she's enjoying the process and how close she is to the peak of pleasure.

Start with soft and sensual touches, caresses and kisses, paying attention to every part of her body except the vulva area. Let your movements be slow and teasing, and kissing the inside of her thighs to create an intense anticipation.

Soft breathing on her labia area will add even more excitement. All your attention should be focused on your partner, her sensations and reactions, to make the process as pleasurable and intimate as possible.

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Use your tongue and stimulate the clitoris

Start using your tongue to gently and carefully stimulate her by making light gliding motions around her labia, vulva and the hood of her clitoris. However, try to avoid direct contact with the clitoris in the first stages to keep the intrigue alive and increase her arousal. 

Due to the accumulated arousal and increased blood circulation in this area, the clitoris will slightly increase in size, resembling a delicate and sensitive pearl. Then start stimulating the clitoris with your tongue, alternating between short, light touches and smooth, long movements. This will create a nice rhythm, enhancing her pleasure.

If you want to add variety, you can gently stimulate the clitoris with your fingers or use a small vibrator to create new sensations. The main thing is to be attentive to her reactions and adapt your actions to make the process as pleasurable and intense as possible.

Combined stimulation

When she is on the verge of orgasm but has not yet crossed that line, gently insert two fingers into her vagina. Position your palm so that your fingers are pointing upward, allowing you to easily reach her G-spot and begin gentle stimulation.

If you are not familiar with the G-spot, find it. This small area of tissue can be felt on the front wall of the vagina; it will be slightly raised and textured, differentiating it from the smooth surface of the rest of the wall. To the touch, this area may resemble the surface of a walnut or velvety tissue.

Once you've identified it, gently apply pressure with your fingers and begin rhythmic movements while continuing to caress her clitoris with your tongue. This dual stimulation creates an intense sensation.

If done correctly, she will quickly reach orgasm, and it will be a powerful and deep orgasm, enhanced by the combination of internal and external stimulation.

The role of energy in the technique

Venus Butterfly can be seen not only as a physical technique, but also as a way of managing sexual energy. Many teachings on sensuality (such as tantra) view sexual energy as a source of power that can be channeled to enhance pleasure. Here it is important to pay attention to breathing, the rhythm of touch and the energetic connection between partners.

Practical application of the energetic approach:

• Synchronize your breathing with your partner to establish a deep connection.
• Use movements that not only stimulate the body but also direct energy upward (e.g., from the pelvis to the heart).
• Focus on the sensations in each area to feel the pleasure flowing through the body.