Threesome

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What is a threesome?

A threesome is an intimate relationship that involves three people at the same time. It should not be confused with group sex or orgies, where there are usually four or more people involved and the action is more explicit and massive.

Reasons and Motivation of Participants

Everyone's reasons for participating in a threesome are different. For some, it is a way to fulfill long-held sexual fantasies. While for others, a threesome is seen as a way to bring novelty and passion into a relationship, which is especially important for those who have been in a steady relationship for a long time and want to avoid monotony.

Formats and Options of Threesomes

MMF (Man-Man-Female).

This format involves two men and one woman. Often in heterosexual couples, the man and woman remain the primary partners, with the second man serving as a guest participant. The scenario may involve active interaction between the man and woman, or between both men if they have a bisexual preference.

FFM (Female-Female-Male).

This combination involves two women and one man. This format is often most appropriate for heterosexual couples, where the man is interested in intimacy with two women and one of the women is willing to explore interaction with another woman. Depending on the scenario, the women may interact with each other, or be limited to interacting with the man.

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MMM and WOM (Same Sex Triplets).

In this case, all participants are of the same sex. These formats are found in homosexual and bisexual communities and allow people to focus entirely on same-sex interactions.

Paired threesomes (two partners and a third participant)

This format involves a couple and a third person who is added by agreement between the partners. Such threesomes are popular with stable couples who want to explore new forms of intimate interaction without the risk of ruining the relationship. For this, couples can invite either an acquaintance or use specialized dating apps.

Psychological and Emotional Aspects

A threesome can cause a wide range of psychological and emotional reactions, one of the main risks being  jealousy. Even if a couple openly discusses the possibility of a threesome and agrees to it, seeing their partner with another person can be very challenging and cause strong emotions. Insecurity can also be a side effect of a threesome; since some participants may start comparing themselves to a third person, which negatively affects self-esteem and causes feelings of inadequacy. To avoid these experiences, it's important to remember that a tee time is an experience designed to push the boundaries of pleasure and enjoyment, not a test of ability and self-esteem.

Preparing for a Threesome

Discussion of Personal Boundaries

Each participant should understand in advance what is acceptable to them and what is categorically taboo. For example, one partner may prefer that certain interactions (such as kissing or certain caresses) remain only between them and their primary partner. Also, participants should analyze their feelings and possible fears that may arise; for example, the presence of jealousy or fear of losing their primary partner can ruin the whole experience.

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Safety and Health Principles

• It is important to discuss the use of contraception (e.g. condoms) and other methods of protection.
• To avoid possible infections, participants may agree to undergo check-ups before the tee time. 
• All participants should maintain hygiene and cleanliness

Choosing an Appropriate Third Party

Depending on the couple's preference, you can invite either a familiar person or a completely new person. A familiar person may inspire more trust, but the presence of an outsider can help avoid potential emotional complications.

Planning a Comfortable Environment

• It is important to decide on the location in advance and choose a time that is convenient for all participants. This can be the couple's home, a rented residence, or any other place where everyone feels comfortable and safe.
• To create the right mood, you can prepare a calm and cozy atmosphere - dim lights, soft music and a clean space where everyone will be comfortable.

Where to find a third person?

Finding a third person for a threesome can be done through specialized apps like Feeld and 3Fun, which allow couples and singles to find each other for non-traditional relationships. Adult Friend Finder and SwingLifestyle are also popular with people looking for partners for threesomes or swingers; while swinger clubs, such as The Green Door in Las Vegas or Trapeze in Florida, offer a safe and confidential environment for dating and meeting. Additionally, themed parties and festivals geared toward polyamorous or sexually liberated communities allow you to find suitable participants in an informal setting.

Online platforms such as Reddit, with subreddits like r/Swingers, or the social network FetLife provide access to communities and events where tees are discussed and organized. Many couples utilize Tinder by creating joint profiles indicating interest in tees, but this requires a sensitive approach as the platform is not specifically designed for this.

Before searching, it's important to discuss expectations, boundaries and comfort with your partner, as well as agree on rules with the third party beforehand. Remember that discussing health, using protection, and respecting privacy are key elements of a successful time.

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