Spooning (Sex position)

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The spooning sex position is one of the most cozy and intimate positions for lovemaking. Many people choose it for a reason: it is comfortable, relaxing and avoids excessive tension, which sometimes causes awkwardness or discomfort. In the spoon position sex, really deep contact is possible, and thanks to the close proximity, partners can easily touch each other in the most sensitive places, increasing pleasure and the likelihood of vivid orgasms.

Why the spooning sex position is so comfortable and popular

One of the reasons for the popularity of this pose is its physical comfort. Partners lie on their sides, which reduces the load on the spine, muscles and joints, allowing both to stay in the position for a long time. It is ideal for those tired after a long day, as well as for morning tender moments when you want to be as close to each other as possible; as the pose provides close contact, and no high physical activity or flexibility is required.

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How to position yourself correctly

To get the spooning position in sex right, start with both partners lying on their sides, facing the same direction. The partner who will be behind (often called the “big spoon”) takes the main role - lies behind the partner and presses tightly against their back. The partner in front (“little spoon”) is usually positioned a little closer to the edge of the bed, or anywhere comfortable where you can relax your legs and upper body without straining.

Both partners may bend their legs slightly, especially if the bed is not very spacious or if it is necessary to create a comfortable space for movement. The partner in front can raise one leg, which creates more room for penetration and helps achieve a more comfortable angle.

Pillows play an important role for support, since placing a small pillow under the partner's head from the front will provide stability and prevent neck strain. Also, a pillow placed between the partner's knees in front or under their thighs will help to slightly raise the lower body, which will change the angle and allow the partner behind to penetrate gently and comfortably.

The partner behind can place one arm under the partner's head from the front, hugging their shoulders, or along their body, depending on preference. The free hand from behind can be used to gently touch the partner's chest, stomach or thigh from the front.

Variations and alternatives in the spooning position in sex

• With the leg raised: The passive partner can raise the upper leg, bringing it slightly towards the chest; this will open up more space for penetration, allowing the active partner to reach deeper areas. In addition, this variation gives more access to the passive partner's stimulating body areas, including the abdomen and breasts.
• With a pillow under the hips: The passive partner can place a small pillow or bolster under the hips, which changes the angle of penetration and helps the active partner find new points for stimulation. This option helps to adjust the position to the individual characteristics of the body of the partners, making the sensations more intense.
• Intimate caresses from behind: In this variation, the active partner uses not only penetration but also their hands for deeper stimulation; to stroke the thighs, breasts, or other sensitive areas. In this position, the active partner can easily embrace and maintain physical intimacy, which adds to the sensuality.
• Reverse Spoon (face-to-face):Both partners lie facing each other, still in close contact but looking at each other's eyes. In this position you can not only have sex, but also cuddle, kiss and watch each other's facial expressions, which increases arousal.
• Forward leaning spooning: The partner in front can move slightly away or lean forward, creating a little more distance between their bodies but still maintaining contact.

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Pros

• The spooning position in sex minimizes physical strain, as both partners lie on their sides. This allows to relax your muscles and stay in a comfortable position for a long time.
• This position is recommended for women in late pregnancy, as it avoids pressure on the abdomen.
• The spooning sex position does not require special flexibility or physical strength, so it is suitable for people of any age and physical condition.
• In this position, one of the partners has a free hand in the back, which allows them to caress various erogenous zones of the partner in front.

Cons

• Because of the spooning sex position of the bodies, penetration may not be as deep as in other positions, and the angle is limited.
• The spoon position sex is not as comfortable for quick sex; it is more suited for slow and smooth movements, which may not be preferred by everyone.
• Since both partners are lying on their sides, this spooning position in sex can cause stiffness or numbness in the arms and legs, especially if the pose is held for a long time. Additionally, If the back partner's arm stays under the front partner's body for a long time, it can cause discomfort.
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