Mutual Masturbation

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What mutual masturbation is and why it is necessary

Mutual masturbation is a sexual practice in which two (or more) people arouse each other with their hands or with toys, without penetration. It can be stimulation with the hands, using vibrators, stroking with the feet - anything that gives pleasure and does not involve direct contact through vaginal, anal or oral sex.

This form of intimacy is considered fairly safe from a health perspective. Why? Because there is no direct exchange of bodily fluids, which means that the risk of sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy is almost eliminated.

This practice can be part of the intimate life of both hetero- and homosexual couples. It is often used as an alternative to traditional sex, for example, when one partner cannot or does not want penetration; which may be due to illness, pregnancy, psychological barriers or simply a desire to diversify the contact.

For adolescents, mutual masturbation can be a way of exploring sexuality and their bodies in a safer and more controlled way.

What are the different forms of mutual masturbation

• Contact masturbation is when partners excite each other directly with hands, body, mouth, breasts, toys; so it can be stroking on breasts, nipples, genitals or just sensitive areas of the body. This format is most common in couples, but it is also practiced in groups - especially in sex clubs or gay saunas. This can also include stimulation of the penis between the breasts, a technique known as “titfuck” or breast masturbation.

• Non-contact masturbation is a more visual and psychological format. Here the partners do not touch each other, but get aroused by the very fact of watching or communicating; so it can be watching porn together, masturbation on camera, video or phone sex. This type is especially popular in the online space - webcam chats, erotic streaming, interactive correspondence, where people get aroused by each other without direct contact.

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What are the benefits of mutual masturbation - especially if you do it with porn

Mutual masturbation, especially if you include porn in the process, can become not just a sexual practice, but a real tool for bonding and improving intimacy.

For one thing, it builds trust, as sharing these moments means letting someone into your personal space; so the more openness, the deeper the connection between you becomes. This works even better than long conversations about feelings, especially if talking is hard and showing is easy.

Second, it's real-time learning. When your partner sees you touching yourself, they don't just get turned on - they learn. It's a direct cue: “That's how I like it.” And next time, they already know how to give pleasure without guessing randomly.

The third plus is the refreshment of the relationship; as joint masturbation with watching porn is a slightly different format of intimacy, which helps to get out of the usual scenario. It's like playing an erotic game, only without the pressure and commitment. It's easy, interesting, and arousing.

Also importantly, it's easier to relax in this situation. When you're not focused on “getting it done” but just enjoying yourself, orgasms can be more vivid. All because the body isn't in tension - you're letting yourself feel without thinking about having to “do something back”.

And, of course, we can't leave out the physiological bonuses, since an orgasm, even from masturbation, is always a release of endorphins. It helps relieve stress, sleep better, reduces anxiety, and even boosts immune defense. In addition, regular sexual activity has a positive effect on blood circulation and overall body health.

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How to start mutual masturbation: step by step

If you want to add something new to intimacy, mutual masturbation is a great idea. Not only is it a way to increase arousal, but it's also a way to get to know each other more intimately without pressure or rush. Here's how you can approach it gently and confidently.

Start by having a conversation, before you get into practicing, it's a good idea to talk things out openly and calmly. Tell your partner what you want to try, why it turns you on, and be sure to clarify how he or she feels about it. This will not only help relieve tension, but also create the right mood, add anticipation and warm up the atmosphere.

Observation, touch and comfort

If you're both ready, move on to the action. Keep in mind that mutual masturbation doesn't have to involve touching each other at the same time, you can start by simply observing: one is doing themselves, the other is watching - and vice versa. It can be very intimate and arousing. Over time, as the level of trust grows, you can move on to touching - first yourself, then each other. If there is shyness, start in dim light, under a blanket, or just in a more closed position to feel comfortable.

Try different positions. Lie next to each other facing each other to catch glances if you're not ready to watch the movements themselves yet. You can sit across from each other with your legs spread - this gives you the opportunity to see everything and share your arousal directly. If you want more body contact, try sitting on top of or lying on top of your partner - this will add physicality and make the process even more exciting.

Touch, toys and fantasies

When you want to go further, move on to touching each other. This can be just exploring, without the goal of bringing you to orgasm. Observe how your partner reacts, take your time. You can guide their  movements with your hand or words - this will help you better understand what gives each other the most pleasure.

If you have sex toys, this is a great time to plug them in, so use your favorite toy on yourself or let your partner hold it. It's important to remember: if the toys aren't personal, they should definitely be cleaned before and after, and preferably used with condoms. This is especially important if you are concerned about hygiene and safety.

You can add a bit of role-playing to enhance the effect. Come up with a short scenario, play out a fantasy - whether it's someone “new”, someone else's perspective, or even the idea of a threesome (in fantasy, of course). Not only is it a turn-on, but it makes you feel freer. You can even turn on porn that you both enjoy and dive into it together, discussing what hooks you in the process.

Don't forget to talk

And finally, don't forget to talk. Right during the process, after or before - share feelings, ask how your partner is feeling. Even a simple “I love the way you do it” can add confidence and depth to the moment. The more frank - the higher the pleasure and emotional contact.

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